{"id":18486,"date":"2018-02-19T00:10:18","date_gmt":"2018-02-19T05:10:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zeezoey.com\/blog\/?p=18486"},"modified":"2018-02-19T05:58:06","modified_gmt":"2018-02-19T10:58:06","slug":"learning-from-parkland-a-candid-discussion-on-the-marjory-stoneman-douglas-high-school-shootings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zeezoey.com\/blog\/learning-from-parkland-a-candid-discussion-on-the-marjory-stoneman-douglas-high-school-shootings\/","title":{"rendered":"Discussing the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School Shootings: It Could Happen Anywhere USA"},"content":{"rendered":"

Editors Note:<\/strong> While this is a cat-related blog, the post to follow is not about cats. I respect your decision if you chose not to read on, but I truly hope you will. The recent shootings at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida affect all of us and it’s imperative we open lines of communication talk about it in order to help prevent tragedies like this from happening in the future.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"Saturday, February 10, was a beautiful South Florida day. We were gifted with a deep blue sky, puffy clouds, and a delightful breeze. Dan\u2019s a photography enthusiast and he wanted to take advantage of the exquisite day by visiting the equestrian center located in the city neighboring us to take pictures of horses competing at an agility event. I decided to join him, looking forward to a peaceful and relaxing day.<\/p>\n

The center is only a few miles away and it\u2019s situated in a city that harkens back to my life in upstate New York. Unlike the typical palm trees you find lining the streets of most of South Florida, this community is also graced with woodland forests, rolling farmland, horses, and old-fashioned wooden fences.<\/p>\n

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One of many horse farms we passed by on our way to the equestrian center.<\/p><\/div>\n

It\u2019s a well-to-do area \u2013 clean, pretty, and beautifully landscaped. As we drove to the center, we passed an assortment of people enjoying the day – kids riding bikes, people walking their dogs, and joggers enjoying the cooler temperatures. We also drove past a high school that has been recognized as a School of Excellence in the state of Florida. Even though my kids are long since grown up, I thought to myself, what a wonderful place to raise a family and it made me nostalgic for my childhood days when life seemed simpler.<\/p>\n

We had a lovely time and Monday at work I shared a picture Dan had taken of me with one of the horses with my co-worker, as she lived in the city where the center was located and also worked at one of their most popular restaurants in the evenings. On Wednesday, Valentine\u2019s Day, I woke up to my usual ritual \u2013 post something quickly about the day on Facebook, get ready for work, do a cat head count before heading to work, then drive through maddening rush hour traffic to get to work. It was all very hectic, stressful, and annoying. In a nutshell, it was normal.<\/p>\n

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Enjoying a lovely day with this stunning horse, Sunnie.<\/p><\/div>\n

How could I have possibly predicted the events to follow? It was approximately 2:30 p.m. and my co-worker leaned over to tell me she had gotten a text there was a suspect on the loose in our area who had shot some students at a high school. The school was Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. The very school that Dan and I had driven past a few days prior, and the school where many of the students worked part-time at the restaurant my co-worker works at.<\/p>\n

Just like that, in the blink of an eye, life in our community forever changed. I live in Coral Springs and we share a close relationship with our neighboring friends in Parkland. All mass shootings are tragic, but this one hit home. Besides the connection my co-worker had to the students (and the parents of the students), the wife of Dan’s employer is a teacher there. I was a zombie while driving home and the traffic was horrendous. When I got into the house, Dan had the news on. It wasn\u2019t a dream. It was really happening. A 19-year old with an AR-15 style semi-automatic rifle and had fatally shot 17 people, with 14 more wounded. And to make it even more real, after fleeing the scene, he was apprehended in Coral Springs about an hour later.<\/p>\n

As for so many of us, it\u2019s hard to put into words the range of emotions you feel watching the events unfold around you \u2013 anger, shock, sadness, raw pain, despair, disbelief, rage, bitterness, hopelessness, and deep agony come to mind. It\u2019s difficult to wrap your head around something so heinous and incomprehensible, but the one thing I do understand is that this isn\u2019t just Parkland anymore. Or Sandy Hook, or Las Vegas, or Orlando, or Virginia Tech, or Columbine, or any of the other mass shootings in recent years. This is clearly anywhere USA and we all should feel the pain and outrage because we are all neighbors in one sense or another in this great country of ours.<\/p>\n

Parkland was named the safest city in Florida last year based on analysis by the Washington National Council for Home Safety and Security<\/a> but none of us is truly safe from someone with a gun and a premeditated agenda unless we do something to help prevent this emerging trend. We all have our theories on what should be done and I think it\u2019s important we share our feelings and opinions. But that\u2019s all they are right now. Nobody has a simple fix that will make this problem instantly go away, or stop it from happening ever again. Our society needs a massive overhaul on multiple levels and it\u2019s going to take enormous, collective effort to change the direction our country is heading down.<\/p>\n

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These abandoned bikes at what now is a crime scene is an eerie irony for a school named the safest in the state…<\/p><\/div>\n

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It will be a long time before anything is normal again, if ever. Across the street from the school is a caravan of media trucks and tents that have been parked since the shootings.<\/p><\/div>\n

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Despite how surreal everything is, even in tragedy, hope and the resiliency of the human spirit shine through.<\/p><\/div>\n

I\u2019m not an expert on this subject by any means. I don\u2019t have statistical data to back up my opinions, I\u2019m simply speaking from my heart and sharing some of the factors I think are contributing to where we are today. Please forgive me for speaking in generalities – I know there are exceptions to everything, this is just my overall summation. <\/p>\n

I believe there came a point in American society over the past 30 or so years where women with children did not have the option of staying home for the majority of their child\u2019s formative years (birth through five years). Cost of living standards made it impossible for couples to survive on one income, forcing children into daycare\/babysitting at a much younger age. Years ago parents could rely on their own parents to help with babysitting, but that luxury began to erode with time. The stresses and responsibilities of work also began to increase, translating to both moms and dads coming home later and later – typically exhausted – struggling to keep up with the daily chores of running a household.<\/p>\n

Basic family togetherness time starts to suffer \u2013 less time is spent helping kids with homework, less time is spent eating meals together, less time is spent on community activities, less time is spent on conversation and knowing what is going on in your child\u2019s life. It wasn’t an intentional erosion of the family unit, but it was happening. Many kids became latch-key, plunked in front of a TV as an adjunct babysitter with no adult supervision. Divorce rates began to increase, single parenting increased and the cohesion of the family unit became harder to maintain.<\/p>\n

The days of extended families began to fray \u2013 families that used to live in the same town or even the same street are now living all across the country. Some children have never met their grandparents, let alone aunts and uncles or cousins. We start to lose touch with basic traditions that are passed on from generations. We don\u2019t know our neighbors anymore and the days of playing outside in the fresh air are long gone.<\/p>\n

Creative and independent thinking begins to suffer and technology begins to expand at warp speed. Video games come into the mainstream, with violence being glorified without any consequences of actual moral reality. Kill someone. Hit restart and kill them again. Violent movies win Oscars and critically acclaimed television programming centers around killing on a daily basis. We are becoming desensitized and it\u2019s like wallpaper in the background of our life.<\/p>\n

Because life has become so hectic, adults are also caught up in the warp of technology. We don\u2019t know how to cook anymore \u2013 it\u2019s all fast food or microwaves. We don\u2019t have to use math anymore because we have computers. Newspapers have become extinct, cursive writing is not mandatory in many schools and nearly everything has become automated. We don\u2019t have to think anymore. Google or Echo does it all for us and we\u2019re verging on a world very soon where we will have driverless cars and we already have some stores where our groceries are being paid for while we walk through the store using an app on our phone.<\/p>\n

The work ethic of our youth is being compromised because so much of everything is just given to them and our social skills are suffering immensely. We don\u2019t know how to talk anymore. We don\u2019t even want to talk anymore. Emails, texts, selfies, anything but actual conversation.  And please, 280 characters or less if you don’t mind, as we’re no longer capable of having an extended attention span. It\u2019s easier to stay in your own little cocoon and have everything delivered to you, whether physical items that come to your door from Amazon, or intrinsic friendships we make online with strangers, but we can\u2019t make with our own neighbors.<\/p>\n

Now everybody gets an award at school and teachers get reamed by parents if they dare to say anything constructively negative about their child. We can\u2019t raise our voices, we can\u2019t spank, and many of the role models kids have today center around vapid concepts found on social media. And because parents have so little real time with their children \u2013 and I\u2019m talking parents in any sense of the word – straight, gay, single, whatever – often they prefer to slide into the role of friend, rather than a parent.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just easier to give in. We complain about our kids on iPhones, but we do it as adults too. Go into any public setting and you\u2019ll see the vast majority of the population on their phones rather than interacting with one another. We text while driving, and we keep our phones next to us while our children have their phones glued to their faces rather thank looking at the real world around them. We are losing control and we are often not seeing the signs around us.<\/p>\n

In the case of Nikolas Cruz, the Parkland shooter, apparently there were signs everywhere. It\u2019s an utter tragedy because innocent lives did not need to be lost and the shootings could have been prevented. Since the shooting, students and teachers and former neighbors have described a troubled, recently orphaned young man fascinated with guns and killing animals with a history of disturbing social media posts who had been expelled from Stoneman for fighting and carrying bullets in his backpack.<\/p>\n

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Another tragic irony of the shootings – there were signs everywhere promising safety, but not enough to prevent the horrific carnage.<\/p><\/div>\n

Law enforcement agencies had received over 20 calls in the last few years regarding Cruz and his erratic behavior. But none of it was enough to follow protocol which is staggering to understand. And the rifle Cruz bought was done with a full background check at an established gun shop, passing with \u201cno red flags.\u201d<\/p>\n

If we are to learn anything from this, at the very least can we mandate that under no circumstances, EVER<\/strong>, should any civilian be issued a semi-automatic weapon, let alone a teenager? What on earth does a teenager need with an automatic weapon? And let’s be frank – when our forefathers drafted the Constitution they in no way could have fathomed the weaponry of our current society. If they could, clearly the 2nd Amendment would have been written differently so as to allow for more restrictive control on gun ownership.<\/p>\n

We need a rewind, people. It\u2019s time for this world to slow down. We don\u2019t need phones with even more features. We don\u2019t need more television channels. We don\u2019t need drones dropping food deliveries at our door. We need to start listening and participating in the actual world around us before we become practically helpless to do anything on our own anymore.<\/p>\n

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While I didn’t know any of the victims personally, I wanted to pay my respects to them. There was a steady stream of people stopping to bring flowers, notes, stuffed animals, and more while I was there.<\/p><\/div>\n

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It was a very humbling moment to lay witness to the outpouring of love and compassion for those that lost lives in the shootings.<\/p><\/div>\n

We need Friday evenings with neighbors, playing board games. We need to embrace our teachers and listen to them when they think a child might be acting out as a cry for help. We also need to let them teach. Teachers have enormous hurdles to deal with on a daily basis – overcrowding in classrooms, underfunding, children with special needs and more. Now they have to deal with potential life-threatening violence as well. It’s just not right and it’s not fair to place that kind of burden and responsibility on them.<\/p>\n

We also need less overtime at work so we can spend more time at home. We need less time on our computers and phones and more time becoming involved in our communities. We need to take walks with our kids, cook with them, eat meals with them, and encourage them to read books \u2013 anything that gets their minds working on their own. We need tighter gun control laws, we need better mental health programs, we need to improve safety securities in our schools, such as metal detectors, and we need to take the red flags of disturbing behavior seriously. In essence, we can no longer be complacent and think just because it’s not happening to us directly, that it’s not our problem because unless we do something, one day it could happen to you or someone you love.<\/p>\n

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Seventeen crosses with seventeen hearts grace the front of the high school in honor of those that lost lives. This image will forever haunt me and I pray these precious beings are resting in peace.<\/p><\/div>\n

No parent should ever say goodbye to their child in the morning, sending them to school – a place that should be safe, nurturing, and secure, only to find out they’ve been brutally murdered and that they’ll be burying them a few days later. Precious, innocent children as well as a teacher, an assistant coach, and an athletic director whose lives abruptly ended for no comprehensible reason. And those that survived, witnessing unspeakable carnage and horror. Friends, siblings, extended family members, neighbors, law enforcement officials, first responders, doctors, nurses, community members, faculty, school staff and more. How do they move on? We simply can’t let this event turn into another one. We must work with our politicians and communities to affect change. It starts at home and it needs to start today.<\/p>\n

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